Quitting the Rat Race #6: Watching the Wheels Go Round n Round!!!

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‘Watching Wheels Go Round & Round’ by John Lennon is my new Anthem , like Lennon I too love to watch Wheels go round n round & watching shadows on walls which means basically doing nothing much, living at the speed of life!! So as I’ve mentioned before too, I’ve chosen to be a Homemaker after having a wonderful career for 10 odd years & I am enjoying this life to the hilt. The other day I was chatting with an old pal & he said he was ‘disappointed in me’ ‘cos I had let myself go n lost the zeal for life!!! I was surprised to hear this ‘cos I am actually happier now, my zeal is very much there, now that zeal is focused on other things like practicing simplicity, frugality, embracing the slow pace of life, clarifying my thought processes, eating healthy & exploring fashion, some things for which I didn’t just have time when I was busy with a career. But obviously most people just can’t understand that this way of life could make people not just ordinary Happy but deliriously Happy! People imagine Happiness means only climbing the ladder of career success & buying bigger n more n more expensive things … incidentally the same friend is about to buy a third SUV!!! I mean I can’t understand people buying one SUV but third, that’s ridiculous beyond imagination (..so perhaps I don’t understand them n they don’t understand me!!)

“I cannot tell if what the world considers ‘happiness’ is happiness or not. All I know is that when I consider the way they go about attaining it, I see them carried away headlong, grim and obsessed, in the general onrush of the human herd, unable to stop themselves or to change their direction. All the while they claim to be just on the point of attaining happiness.” ~Chuang Tzu

Enuff said…now off to Lalaland humming the great lyrics of great song!!! John Lennon reflects my state of mind uncannily

Watching The Wheel go round & round

People say I’m crazy doing what I’m doing
Well they give me all kinds of warnings to save me from ruin
When I say that I’m o.k. well they look at me kind of strange
Surely you’re not happy now you no longer play the game

People say I’m lazy dreaming my life away
Well they give me all kinds of advice designed to enlighten me
When I tell them that I’m doing fine watching shadows on the wall
Don’t you miss the big time boy you’re no longer on the ball

I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go

Ah, people asking questions lost in confusion
Well I tell them there’s no problem, only solutions
Well they shake their heads and they look at me as if I’ve lost my mind
I tell them there’s no hurry
I’m just sitting here doing time

I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go
I just had to let it go
I just had to let it go

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October 3, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Inspiration, Meaning of Life, Music, My lifestyle, My Values, Philosophy, Quitting the Rat Race, Quotations, Reflections/Musings, Slacker-Sutras, Slacking, Wisdom, You tube. 2 comments.

Quitting the Rat Race #4: Killing the cycle of consumerism & (over) work

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I guess there is a very close inter connection between  simplicity (living simply enjoying peace rather than stuff), frugality (saving money whenever & wherever we can but still feeling rich & luxurious: yes it is possible), solitude (enjoying time alone n you no longer see the Joneses, so no danger of falling into the trap of trying to compete with them) anti consumerism (stop finding joy in stuff) minimizing our (carbon) footprints on the planet (it makes me uneasy when people come loaded with poly bags containing stuff they don’t even need) & quitting the rat race (goodbye work, hello leisure).

 When we embrace simplicity, frugality & an anti consumerist lifestyle, quitting work is a piece of cake…no more working at a job we don’t want, to buy the stuff we don’t need, to impress the people we don’t even like, & in the bargain plundering the beautiful nature which we actually love!!!

In their ground breaking book ‘ Your Money or your life: 9 steps to transforming your relationship with money‘, authors Vicki Robbins & Joe dominquez say we must not measure the cost of any stuff in terms of money we spend on it but in terms of ‘life energy‘ we have to spend to earn that money. They have redefined the concept of money itself. Money doesn’t simply mean a ‘medium of exchange’ but ‘Money is something for which you trade life energy’. 

In order to apply this principle, you first calculate your hourly wage.  You will then see exactly how much your life energy is worth, and you will be able to measure the cost of money spent in terms of valuable life energy lost, instead of just dollars/rupees/whatever.  (This would come handy in cutting down spending money on useless stuff)

Once you have finished, you can do some eye-opening conversions.  For example:

How much life energy do you spend at convenience stores/restaurants daily?  Could you spend less and still be happy if you cooked at home? & we could think in these term whenever buying stuff big/small. I mean we don’t even need to carry out exact calculations. A general grasp of this concept makes us a little more aware when we are about to spend money.

I am very happy to report that I’ve cut down my own consumption in several areas once i became aware of the concept of ‘life energy’ value of money. This was my precursor to quitting the Rat Race.

‘My dad did not change his lifestyle, he early on recognized that there is a power in keeping a low overhead, he realized that there is a line that balance between having what you want and doing what you want and the more you have what you want the less you will do what you want. So once he says, I have a pair of jeans, a pair of boots and 2 jackets, I can do anything.’
Mario Van Peebles on the accomplishments of his father Melvin Van Peebles.

For me this arrangement works out just fine ‘cos perhaps I’ve been lucky to realize that stuff  ≠ Joy. My home has very simple furniture, just the bare functional basics & I just roll my eyes when I see people’s house that ceased being homes long ago & resemble more closely to museums, they have assorted nick knacks from all over the world displayed proudly (i think comically) in HUGE shelves. So much money down, the drain, so much life energy wasted’ & so much clutter. Spend money & buy head-ache. & more life energy to be wasted on cleaning the dust accumulated on all that stuff.

Ponder Over These too:

“It is preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else that prevents us from living freely and nobly.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Much of our activity these days is nothing more than a cheap anaesthetic to deaden the pain of an empty life.” – Unknown

“The things you own end up owning you.” – Tyler Durden in Fight Club

‘There must be more to life than having everything!’~Maurice Sendak

“There is enough on earth for everybody’s need, but not for everyone’s greed.”~Gandhi

With money you can’t buy wisdom, you can’t buy inner peace. Wisdom and inner peace must be created by yourself.~Dalai Lama

“Man…sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” ~The Dalai Lama (when asked what surprises him the most about humanity)

September 15, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Book Review, Books, Current Events, Inspiration, Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Philosophy, Quitting the Rat Race, Reflections/Musings, Simplicity, Wisdom. 8 comments.

Things I am Grateful For

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”~Oprah Winfrey

He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.  ~Epictetus

We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.  ~Cynthia Ozick

Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.  ~Aldous Huxley

  1. My Upbringing- which was solidly rooted in values, though my parents had enough money but we were never spoilt. We had to work to get the things we wanted apart from the basics. That might not have seemed so great at that time but I realize the value of such training in my growing years. It is coming handy throughout my life.

  2. My parents: They gave me absolute freedom to do whatever I wished to do without ever pressurizing me to pursue a certain career.

  3. A supportive hubby who shares chores with me.

  4. Hubby & me sharing common basic values.

  5. Hubby’s secure Job.

  6. Not having to worry about Medical emergencies. Hubby’s job takes care of it.

  7. Hubby bringing me Bed Tea every morning.

  8. A Spouse who truly appreciates & values me.

  9. Hubby being a great cook.

  10. Finding so much happiness & peace in married life after a bad marriage.

  11. Our friend chakri who introduced us. I call him our cupid.

  12. My successful career stint. Making a living doing what I love.

  13. My students: I learnt as much from them as I taught them. I had a wonderful, enriching experience interacting with young minds.

  14. My kick ass attitude which makes the best of all situations eventually.

  15. Friends with whom I can share my innermost thoughts & deepest secrets. With whom I shared fun moments & all my woes. Who always had faith in me & time for me, even when I was at my Worst.

  16. My wonderful online friends, some of whom I’ve not even met but the bond is still precious n valuable as ‘real’ friendship.

  17. Traveling to so many places.

  18. Digital camera: I just love photography & it’s a breeze with digi cams.

  19. Clarity: I am grateful for having worked out my core values & understanding what makes me truly happy.

  20. Understanding myself: I have really worked out what I want in life & have the ability & strength to go after them. I’ve rarely if ever succumbed to social/peer pressure.

  21. Self love: I am my Best friend n biggest cheer leader & admirer.

  22. My footloose & carefree lifestyle. Not being stuck with kids.

  23. Internet: I just dunno how we ever managed before the advent of the net.

  24. My Laptop.

  25. My Blog: It helps me to air my opinions whenever it strikes my fancy.

  26. Blogs out there: I can spend hours & hours exploring various interesting topics & point of view.

  27. Internet Forums: I learnt a lot on various topics from these forums. I explored various themes that were important to me at various times like being child free, introversion, body acceptance, voluntary simplicity, Feminism et al. These forums help me connect with likeminded souls.

  28. Osho: He’s the Kick ass Guru who helped me clarify my thoughts n figure out my values.

  29. My schooling: Our Principal was a great lady who had a different vision for education. She made us really bold & smart.

  30. Great Teachers like Buddha, Thich Nhat Hanh, Deepak chopra, Eckhart Tolle, Louise Hay, Lin Yutang, Tom Hodgkinson, Vernon Howard, Guy Finley, Byron Katie, Wayne dyer, Marci Schimoff & Many many more who have helped my journey towards peace & calm.

  31. Never having the need to keep up with Joneses. I’ve always been happy with leading my life the way I want without comparing myself with others. Gives me lots of peace of mind.

  32. Simplicity: I’ve embraced voluntary simplicity which leads to saving money & enables us to lead a clutter free life which adds to our peace of my mind.

  33. Not being addicted to anything.

  34. My love for solitude: Not always needing people around me to feel secure/entertained enables me to be happy anywhere anytime.

  35. Having loads of time for myself: To read, think, reflect & clarify my values.

  36. My tough times: Though it may be clichéd to say this but it is amply true that those bad time really taught me, made me strong & appreciate all the good stuff.

  37. Friends who stood by me during my tough times, who let me express my woes infinite times, who never lost faith in me & who helped me stand up again after going through some big tragedies in life.

  38. Gaining self esteem after difficult teenage years which really sucked for me.

  39. People who are kind enough to appreciate my blogs & pictures @ FB.

  40. Haruki Murakami, Milan Kundera, Alain De Botton & all the wonderful writers of fiction.

  41. Books: I can spend any amount of time absorbed in the wonderful world of books. As long as there are books I am sure I will never be bored.

  42. My good Height: which not only adds to my personality but also lets me gain weight without it showing too much.

  43. My skin: which has recovered quite well after teenage acne & sunburns.

  44. My fabulous Dressing & fashion/style sense.

  45. Having the flexibility to adjust & go with the flow. Somehow I never get addicted to luxuries & find it easy to cut back. I like both splurging & saving as & when the circumstances in life demand.

  46. My wonderful family & esp my nieces who are the apple of my eyes. Esp Risha with whom I shared two wonderful years of my life.

  47. The freedom to go on holidays every year.

  48. Moving every two years: Though it may have it’s downsides but I just love the complete change in lifestyle. Each place has it’s own charm/flavor. Life is never dull/boring/predictable.

  49. Movies like  Groundhog Day which have entertained me & make me think.

  50. Wonderful Domestic Help: can’t ever thank enough to people who smooth my life.

  51. Our own Home: Takes off another worry from my head about the future.

  52. My sense of Humor.

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September 5, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Lists, Meaning of Life, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Reflections/Musings, Simplicity, Wisdom. 6 comments.

The Aim of Education is not just to Enable one to earn money

Yesterday during a chat one of my old time chums who is also currently a homemaker was lamenting the fact that she is just sitting at home despite being educated. I am also in the same boat as her (not working outside home that is), only  I’ve taken even more academic & professional degrees. But I don’t think our education is ‘wasted’ merely because we are not earning money…the purpose of education is to make us holistic human being capable of thinking independently, making decisions rationally & meet the challenges of life maturely.

Recently I came across an article ‘ What should an educated person know’ by Josh Kaufman of ‘Personal MBA‘ fame. He has listed the skill sets of an educated person by various institutions…the lists are pretty remarkable. The one that particularly resonated with me is the one by George Wyth college

George Wyth College’s list of skills that make an “educated person”:

  1. The ability to understand human nature and lead accordingly.

  2. The ability to identify needed personal traits and turn them into habits.

  3. The ability to establish, maintain, and improve lasting relationships.

  4. The ability to keep one’s life in proper balance.

  5. The ability to discern truth and error regardless of the source or the delivery.

  6. The ability to discern true from right.

  7. The ability and discipline to do right.

  8. The ability and discipline to constantly improve.

& Josh Kaufman’s own list list of “Core Human Skills”:

  1. Information-Assimilation – how to find, consume, and comprehend information and identify what’s most important in the face of a problem or challenge.

  2. Writing – how to communicate thoughts and ideas in written form clearly and concisely.

  3. Speaking – how to communicate thoughts and ideas to others clearly, concisely, and with confidence.

  4. Mathematics – how to accurately use concepts from arithmetic, algebra, geometry, calculus, and statistics to analyze and solve common problems.

  5. Decision-Making – how to identify critical issues, prioritize, focus energy/effort, recognize fallacies, avoid common errors, and handle ambiguity.

  6. Rapport – how to interact with other people in a way that encourages them to like, trust, and respect you.

  7. Conflict-Resolution – how to anticipate potential sources of conflict and resolve disagreements when they occur.

  8. Scenario-Generation – how to create, clarify, evaluate, and communicate a possible future scenario that assists in decision-making, either for yourself or another person.

  9. Planning – how to identify the necessary next steps to achieve an objective, account for dependencies, and prepare for the unknown and inevitable change via the use of contingencies.

  10. Self-Awareness – how to accurately perceive and influence your own internal states and emotions, including effective management of limited energy, willpower, and focus.

  11. Interrelation – how to recognize, understand, and make use of key features of systems and relationships, including cause-and-effect, second and third-order effects, constraints, and feedback loops.

  12. Skill Acquisition – how to go about learning a desired skill in a way that results in competence by finding and utilizing available resources, deconstructing complex processes, and actively experimenting with potential approaches.

These lists also support my point of view that education is not merely for making us earn money but to live a rich n fruitful life with aplomb, equanimity, grace, panache n passion.

September 2, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Hmm..., Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Reflections/Musings, Wish List. 1 comment.

Why Being An Introvert Rocks

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This post has been triggered by some posts I read at other blogs in which atleast three introverts claimed that they are introverts but trying to be extroverts & one actually listed her introversion under her weaknesses…I cringed at this…I’ve been an introvert all my life n I actually regard it as one of my principal strengths…even my USP (except for the time during my teenage years when I like others believed being an introvert is some sort of curse to be rid of & everyone is suppossed to enjoy parties n be the life of parties & that if I like to stay at home n read books something is seriously wrong with me…those were pretty hard times for me…but I didn’t know any better then…thankfully I’m a lot wiser now, now I’ve embraced my introversion & celebrate myself for who I am)…I guess the reason why introversion might be seen as negative is because it’s mainly an extroverted world: stats say about 3/4 of total population is extroverted while only about 1/4 are introverted & on top of it introverts are not as vocal as extroverts. I want other introverts to know that this is something to celebrate n not to be cured.

What you thought was wrong with you may be what’s right with you. ~Alan Cohen

Okay let’s get things in order & get clear on the basics

Introversion is not equal to being shy, Shy people want to mingle with others but can’t, introverts just want to be left alone though they can be social n gregarios when they occassionally choose to.  According to gifted kids section at about.com

Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts just like to spend time with themselves. They enjoy their solitude unlike extroverts who are happier around people..now isn’t it a blessing to enjoy one’s own thoughts n company, that way we don’t depend on others for our joy & we never get bored, a complain I often hear from extroverts is they are getting bored when external stimulation/ excitement is not available to them but no so with us..I mean I’ve never ever got bored for 5 minutes in my life…if nothing else is available, I’m engaged with my own thought processes…I find my thoughts very entertaining. Introverts are more self aware, more thoughtful, live life inside out rather than outside in. Basically all characteristics of a person reaching the stage of self actualization. It just may so happen that they might become confused due to dominant voices in the society.

Resources for the Introverts:

 The Introvert Forums

What Everyone needs to know about Introverts

The Top Ten Gifts of Being Inner Directed Individuals

The Introvert Zone

The Introvert Zone on Face Book

Caring for your Introvert

Suggested Reading for Introverts:

The Introvert Advantage

Party of One: The Loner’s Manifesto

Solitude: A Return to the Self

Celebrating Time Alone: Stories of Splendid Solitude

Living Introverted

So introverts what are you waiting for?? Go ahead & celebrate your strengths.

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April 12, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Meaning of Life, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Reflections/Musings. 6 comments.

A Meme about Me Me & Me (Whackjob)

I’ve been Tagged by Sunil of I blog therefore I am. Thanks Sunil for creating this fun Tag & giving me one more excuse of launching forth on my favorite topic: Me, I and Myself. It was fun doing this Tag & I look forward to many more.

1. If you could go back in time to relive one moment, what would it be?
Ummm honestly no moment…I don’t want to relive any moment ever ‘cos I believe I really do live each moment to the fullest, the good, the bad, the ugly…if I’m ever sad I’m sad in totality, I cry my eyes dry but once I’m done that episode is over for me, no trace of sadness remains…same goes for the happy moments…so I just want to be in the Present Moment. 

2. If you could go back in time and change one thing, what would it be?
No change each moment has contributed to make me what I am today & I’m honestly very happy with what I’ve become.

3. What movie or TV character you think you resemble most in personality?

~Howard Roark from Fountainhead -tends to be much more interested in what he’s doing than in anybody else’s opinion of what he’s doing. He’s not the part of the crowd but stands majestically alone. An individualist in the truest sense of the word. A man who does things his own way n never anything to please others.He is never out there to win a popularity contest. He is his own man and lives by his own rules. He refuses to join any fraternity. He is not anti-social so much as asocial. He never learned the process of thinking about other people. Nor does he care to. He achieves his top values: self-esteem, happiness, pride, Independence, Egoism, and Achievement.

~Scarlett O’Hara (from Gone with the Wind) was not beautiful, but men seldom realized it when caught by her charm.
Scarlet couldn’t stand any conversation for more than 5 minutes where she was not the center of attention.

~Rudy Baylor from Rainmaker–Maintained his wry sense of humor when almost anything that could go wrong goes wrong.& then rose like a Phoenix. Always has a rich internal dialogue going on. In the most mundane/pathetic situation his mind keeps him entertained.

4. What movie or TV character would you really like to be like?

Same as in 3 above

5. If you could push one person in the whole world off a cliff and get away with it, who would it be?
None, live n let live…believe in the theory of Karma…each will meet his/her rewards/punishment as per their karma without me getting in their way.

6. Name one habit you want to change in yourself.
Being online the first thing in morning….I seriously want to cut down on my online time. Every night I decide I’d focus on my other tasks the next day, every morning I swich on the net before brushing my teeth L…my world will slip seriously out of control if I don’t change this soon.

7. Describe yourself in one word.
One word is too little n too difficult…but okay lemme give it a shot…ummm okay in word DIVA…lolz…I really do live life Queen size

8. Describe the person who named you in this meme in one word.

Sunil : is a ‘Thinker, philosopher, writer, reader, guitarist, filmmaker, & a biker’…I’ve recently discovered his blog & already loving it. I especially enjoy the subtle humor & wisdom that is always there in  his writing. Movie reviews on his blog are also worth checking out.

9. Why do you blog? Answer in one sentence.

~To express my thoughts & perspectives on the several issues that interest me

 ~to expand my self awareness;

~to clarify my values & philosophy of life;

~to record my intellectual & emotional journey;

~To meet & Interact with like minded people

10. Name at least 3 people to send this meme to then inform them.

Irfanudin

Akash Walia

Vikram Karve

Ashish Gorde

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April 8, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , . Blogs, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Quiz, Reflections/Musings. 6 comments.

Zen & the Art of Being A Happy Home-Maker

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After being a person whose life revolved around a career, I got married to an Air-Force officer whose work involves frequent postings to obscure places where career opportunities are not easy to come by. So I’ve been a home-maker for the past 1.5 years & surrounded by many women who are in similar situation. What I find is most of these women are reluctant, frustrated home-makers, getting bored & just biding time till they can join the work force again. But for me home making has been an exciting adventure. As I see it the world is divided into two types of housewives: The Happy Housewife & the reluctant Housewife. The former is a rare tribe while the world is full of the later.

 Some of the phrases that I hear frequently against being a homemaker & my counter thoughts:

 #1. It’s so boring/ you must be getting bored staying at home: Well not really. For me staying at home  is actually more exciting than going out for work. Good Riddance to the Rat Race. For one it has given me an opportunity to explore my myriad hobbies & interest in depth. It gives me time to think my thoughts & form indepth opinions about the things that matter to me. I find time to take long walks with my i pod for company. I listen to music while making lunch & doing chores. I mean this is a real luxury: to spend one’s day as one wants.

 #2 You are wasting your Talent: I’m like hellooo is making money the only use of one’s talents??  As someone remarked “I can’t afford to waste my time making money”. This holds good for me. With loads of time I’m able to express my talents (whatever little talent I have that is) in various ways through blogging, photography, etc. True this doesn’t earn me a penny. But the joy & satisfaction that I get more than makes up for the money I don’t earn. After all what is money but a means to an end of achieving happiness?? If I achieve that end by bypassing the conventional mean, so much better. I really loved the way in Victorain Novels as soon as a guy landed in some money by way of inheritence etc. he immediately gave up a career & settled into a life of peaceful leisure pursuing the finer things in life.

#3.  Not having your own money sucks (Some women have told me they feel uncomfortable     asking their spouses for money): For me it doesn’t ‘cos

a)    I regard hubby’s money as my own. As we see it, a successful partnership has many aspects n the partners can contribute in several ways. While he takes care of the bread n the butter, I enrich the relationship by spending my time exploring & finding: great & meaningful movies for us to watch together & I later analyze & review them in depth; beautiful books for us to read; Amazing places for us to visit & so on…& yeah of course while he brings the food (so to say) ,I cook it n put it on the table. For us neither of the work is more or less important & me not bringing money home doesn’t make our relationship unbalanced or skewed.

b)   A penny saved is penny earned. Over the years I’ve adopted voluntary simplicity & instead of finding joy in stuff & excitement of a so-called high life we find it more in spending time peacefully pursuing calm hobbies like reading, photography, watching movies, blogging etc.

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My Personal Swot Analysis

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Favorite Book Characters

My Lifestyle

 

March 24, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Inspiration, Marriage, Meaning of Life, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Rambling, Reflections/Musings, Simplicity, Wisdom. 10 comments.

My Journey from slim to fat & Back (hopefully)

How did I get so Fat?? I’m left wondering, shaking my head sadly.  Not some years back being skinny used to be my problem!!! Now it’s hard to imagine that those days were for real. Looks like the kilos piled up unbenownst to me. When n how did this happen?? Well not really I do know the story behind those kilos.

In school days I used to be very very skinny & it was my dream to fatten up so i started eating whatever i pleased but still to no avail, I guess the hard schedule of school n the youth made calories disappear. The result of all this eating started showing up in my early college days. I remember during those days when someone commented ‘you are getting fat’, instead of getting alarmed n cautious I used to be very pleased with myself. I congratulated myself inwardly. That was the best compliment in my books. Little did I realize what was in store for me a little later. Then during college I had a bit of emotional crisis, I was under depression due to pressures of studying & perhaps teenage confusion. During that time I took to consuming cups of tea one after another, sometimes without a gap of even 5 mins in between. That was the time I guess which was the real turning point in my journey from slim to FAT. But still there was nothing to worry much about as I have a tall frame, so I can carry a bit of weight without really showing.

The real change came after my marriage. After marriage i stopped working n became a homemaker, not really because I was not doing any work in the house either!! Fortunately or rather unfortunately I  have a full time dependable maid who cooks n cleans for me!! So here I was (am) without having as much to move a finger n getting everything on a platter. All this free time leads to lots of binging. So its a double whammy. & trust me this combo works its magic before you realize. Also my sweet tooth doesn’t help either. I can skip a meal here/there but I can’t say no to sweets/tea. Sure I do try to take regular walks but what is a little walking after n before a whole sedentary day filled with eating.

Analyzing the reasons of how I got here from there gives me insights into a formulating a workable strategy of how to get back there again.  I’ve decided enough is enough & take bulls by it horn n take some serious steps to offload those kgs piled up over time. I got additional inspiration from watching a youtube video by a guy called Sam Crowley who made a very public commitment to lose weight after getting disgusted (in his own words) watching himself on another video he shot.

I’m not for either drastic exercising or drastic dieting & I don’t want to be too thin either. So my approach will be more kaizen like–improvement by taking small steps. Here’s the plan

~Absolutely no sweets till I achieve the desired weight. No exceptions. Oh well, a little cheating once in a while is allowed.

~Only 1-2 cups of tea per day (sometimes i can have up to 4 a day & that’s after cutting down on tea drastically. Before my marriage I had 4-5 cups in bed itself)

~Going for a walk post breakfast, pre lunch n post lunch in winters n morning n evening in summers.

~Getting my own glass of water instead of shouting for it. (It’s a small thing but everything adds up in the end)

~Doing small errands in house throughout the day–giving a helping hand to domestic help!!!

~Only liquids–soups, juices n low fat milk shakes post lunch.

~Use my ‘Before’ pix to keep me motivated.

With this plan I hope to knock off 5-10 kgs in 6 months. Looks reasonable n achievable. & I’ve already decided on my reward for all this discipline. A shopping spree for new clothes * a vacation in Goa. 🙂

December 13, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , . I-Me-Myself, Inspiration, MEMEME, My lifestyle, Personal, Rambling, Reflections/Musings. 1 comment.

My Thought on Things things that Make Me Think!!!

#1 Money: I value money for what it is, A Medium of Exchange & the stuff with which we buy things that make our life comfortable but I’ve seen many a lives ruined by money, not only as in having loads of money will increase the probability of theft/robbery/your kin being kidnapped etc, but also people ruining their lives worrying over money matters (even when none of those scary incidents happen actually) (not that it is money’s fault but then money seems to do this to most folks). I mean people having sufficient money losing sleep over some money lost in stock market for example is actually hilarious if we think about it.  (I wouldn’t worry about money matters till the time I’ve enough for food n shelter, rest of the stuff is negotiable i.e. I’ll indulge in them if I have money n let go if funds are lacking). Money beyond a certain level is more of a tension rather than joy. Then one has to spend substantial time n thoughts over preserving n increasing it & I personally consider it time wasted. I’d rather spend all that time doing something that enriches my soul like reading/ writing; enjoying the finer things rather than thinking over money matters. I believe in earning a decent amount n then using it all to buy things that please one. Saving for imaginary future emergencies doesn’t quite make sense in my scheme of things. & slogging too hard to make wads of money n then blowing it all to buy luxuries to show off to others is also foolish in my books. Moreover the happiness that some people claim to get from things that money can buy is fleeting & not so fulfilling, ‘cos real happiness comes from within n not generated by external things or circumstances.


Most people seem to have forgotten the fact that money is just a means to an end & started worshiping money for its own sake & rather than spending it find more pleasure in hoarding more n more of it.Several researches have conclusively proved that Lottery winners return to their previous level of happiness after five years. But this hasn’t stopped many from the pursuit of more n more money. As someone jokingly remarked “All I need is a chance to prove that money doesn’t buy happiness.”!!!

A Research carried at Princeton University reveals In looking toward the future, women who concentrated much of their thinking on financial matters were much less likely to be happy with their lives. And, contrary to expectations, many of those with such worries had plenty of money by conventional standards, she said, suggesting that there is more at play in obtaining peace of mind than simply having cash. Conversely, those who didn’t fixate on finances like retirement savings, tuition for college or simply making ends meet, reported being the happiest of the group. (somehow I knew all this instinctively & though I’m from Finance background & been teaching Finance for ages I just hate wasting my time on thinking about money…I’ve always spent what I’ve earned on books, music, Net, clothes, Travel, Gadgets & saved only an itsy bitsy amount…somehow worrying over future is not a part of my DNA…I have no aspirations for what I want to buy 5/10 years later…things will work out the way they are meant to.)

Some quotes that reflect my views on money are:

To be clever enough to get all that money, one must be stupid enough to want it. G.K. Chesterton

~Possessions Possess.

~A man is rich in proportion to the things he can afford to live without. Thoreau

~A good mind possesses a kingdom: a great fortune is a great slavery. ~seneca

~Money doesn’t always bring happiness. People with $10 million are no happier than people with $9 million

It’s Official Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness

#2 Ageing: In a world that is obsessed with youth, I seem to be an odd person out: I’m actually looking forward to grow old. (I not only read ‘Harmony’: a magazine for elderly but find it very interesting too!!) I like myself more now at 35 than I did at 16. I know myself more, I’m surer of my own thoughts n feelings…I just loooooooooooove being older n mature n smarter. I don’t understand the attitude of people feeling very proud ‘cos they are young; my sis in law often brags she’s 10 yrs younger than me as if that is some achievement or badge of honor n what’s with so many women who are supposed to lie about their ages to seem younger than they are, WTF?? Some quotes on ageing that reflect my attitude:

A person’s age is something impressive, it sums up his/her life:  maturity reached slowly and against many obstacles, illnesses cured, griefs and despairs overcome, and unconscious risks taken; maturity formed through so many desires, hopes, regrets, forgotten things, loves.  A person’s age represents a fine cargo of experiences and memories.  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Youth is a disease from which we all recover.  ~Dorothy Fulheim

#3 Death: While I’m not looking forward to death like I’m looking forward to growing old, I’m quite okay with death n dying (I’m not really afraid of dying as many are). I accept it as a part of the natural process of life on this planet. In fact death is what makes life worth living & exhilarating. I don’t understand people who want to live forever. The ultimate mystery of death makes life thrilling. Life is exciting because we have finite time here. I believe in rebirth/reincarnation, so I don’t view death as an end but only a transition/transformation.

#4 Karwa Chauth: is an annual ritual where married women Fast (don’t eat food one whole day) for the long life of their Husbands. It is celebrated with gusto n pride in North India. In my not so humble opinion nothing could be more stupid. There are two reasons for my assertion. Number one the concept itself is illogical. There is no cause n effect relationship here. How could one person not eating prolong the life of another?? If women truly believe that fasting one day in a year can increase lives of husbands then probably they should fast for a week or so to make their husbands live forever!!!

Second & more important reason is that this ritual subjugates & demeans women’s status in the society. Women touch the feet of husbands & eat food late night after seeing the moon n touching husband’s feet!!! For all this they get a gift from the hubby!!! Some women claim that now this is an egalitarian festival ‘cos some hubbies fast for their wives too, but I guess that’s doubly stupid ‘cos two stupid things done together don’t make it a right thing.

The whole thing is stupid, ridiculous, shocking & demeaning for women. But they seem very smug n happy about it. A well adjusted slave is the greatest enemy if freedom.

 

November 17, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Meaning of Life, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Quotations, Simplicity, Uncategorized, Wisdom. 6 comments.

On Not Judging Others or Trying To Fix Their Lives

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I have always embarked on a journey of self development…right from building a positive self-esteem (after wallowing in self pity for years together) to controlling my temper, to having a high joy-to-stuff ratio (not being too materialistic), developing my own individuality, finding courage & happiness after divorce, having a joyful relationship in my second marriage. But one thing remains. My need to Judge others n feel my choices n lifestyle n behavior are superior to others (though at the level of my mind I know this is absolutely wrong to do so, I can’t help indulging in it). I mean I’m not a gossip or a loudmouth, but the fact remains that I judge people in my head n I know this is not good for me. I don’t offer unsolicited advice (okay I do in case of my near ones) but in my mind I always go like…

They are too materialist

They are too stingy

They should chill out more

They are too frivolous

They should be more systematic in their routine

They should do this

They don’t have Style

They are too conventional

They should be doing this

They shouldn’t be doing this

 

I want to stop it. This need to judge n offer advice is especially true in context of my family n super especially in case of my mom. I feel she doesn’t spend enough money on herself, despite earning a decent salary. She’s acting miserly without any reason. On many occasions I’ve cajoled, coaxed, reprimanded her to make her life a little bit more comfy…to spend money on herself…but everything falls on her deaf ears. Perhaps it is not she but me who needs to learn the lesson. I must learn to mind my own business n not dispense unsolicited advice however well meaning they might be. Offering others advice has many pitfalls for me:

~ When I judge others n try to correct their behavior I’m spending time ‘outside my own business.’ * I might as well be using this time n energy to resolve my issues, in bettering my own life n decisions.

(it’s funny how we always know how others should lead their lives but have no clue how to sort out our own mess)

~People don’t like others interfering in their life however well meaning the other might be (I have nothing but my mother’s welfare in heart…we often want to protect our loved ones from difficulties but we must realize everyone comes on this planet to learn their lessons & everyone must fulfill their karma). Everyone has their own ideas of what’s right, what’s wrong & what’s best for them n what gives them happiness. To have someone criticize it all the times is certainly irritating & not really welcome. I mean even I would not like it if someone told me I need to make major changes to my life in order to make me happy.

~When we are judging others n trying to solve their problems, it’s an additional burden on our shoulders…the one we are not even supposed to carry.

~ Trying to change others (even for their own good) is futile anyways. The only person I can change is me. So why spend precious energy on lost causes??

~When we Judge others we are like the man who is counting Other People’s cows–Buddha used to tell the story of a man who lived outside a village…every morning he used to count the cows belonging to others as they went to graze in the jungle & every evening he used to count them back..& he used to worry…100 went to the jungle in the morning, only 98 have come back…what happened to the other 2?? Were they lost??  Eaten by a lion?? etc…we may laugh at this man but all of us are like this only when we are trying to worry about others’ problems & solve them!!!!

~ Before Judging  others let us ask ourselves, are we perfect ourselves??

~Usually the urge to sort other peoples’ lives n problem is a symptom of our denial of our own problems…perhaps a subconscious way of evading our own issues…our unwillingness to face the fact that something might be lacking in our behavior patterns n our lives

In short judging other n offering advices to fix others’ life is not good for our own mental health n not good for our relationships. I hereby make a resolve to stop doing it by n by, however much I’m tempted I won’t try to fix them but spend that energy in furthering my own self n development. “Let my own improvement take so much of my time that I don’t have time to judge others”. AMEN

* As Byron Katie puts it : I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. (For me, the word God means “reality.” Reality is God, because it rules. Anything that’s out of my control, your control and everyone else’s control — I call that God’s business.)

Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself, I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation. I noticed this early in 1986. When I mentally went into my mother’s business, for example, with a thought like, My mother should understand me, I immediately experienced a feeling of loneliness. And I realized that every time in my life that I had felt hurt or lonely, I had been in someone else’s business.

If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own. I am separate from myself, wondering why my life doesn’t work. To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for myself? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you.

If you understand the three kinds of business enough to stay in your own business, it could free your life in a way that you can’t even imagine. The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re in mentally, and you may burst out laughing! That question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve been mentally living in other people’s business all your life. Just to notice that you’re in someone else’s business can bring you back to your own wonderful self. And if you practice it for a while, you may come to see that you don’t have any business either and that your life runs perfectly well on its own.

November 14, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Uncategorized. 1 comment.

Ruminations of a Child Free woman

~ I am 35 year old

~who has known since forever known that she doesn’t want any kids (Voluntarily childfree/ childfree by choice)

~I love my child free lifestyle. I love having total control over my time & my ability to do what I please whenever I please without having to adjust my schedule or priorities around children. I love spending uninterrupted Adult time with my spouse. I like the fact that I don’t have to be worried sick about another person’s future & thus enjoy my own present. (some people told me that after a certain point one just starts living for their children…what a scary thought…I live for my own sake, I celebrate myself & I want to keep it that way)I love having fun & changing nappies or feeding to a child who spits more than she swallows is certainly not my idea of fun.

~ I get sick up to my neck of people telling me that I’d change my mind/ I’d regret my choice…in fact this constant sermonizing is what triggered me to write n share this

~I don’t hate other people’s kid (okay I dislike them when they throw things around my house n spit food on my carpet & behave in general like brats). In fact I adore my niece to bits. (To this people tell me ‘other people’s children can’t be your own’…not to worry I’m not trying to make her my own as in counting her to be there for me when I’m old or anything…I adore her ‘cos she’s adorable n that’s it).

~Contrary to what people assume ‘I’m never gonna change my mind on this one’ & ‘I’m sure I’m not gonna regret my choice either’.

~ I’m from India. Here the concept of ‘child free’ seems to be totally unheard of. In fact to this date I’ve not met any woman/ couple who are voluntarily childfree. The childless couples I know have either adopted or considering adoption.

~People just don’t understand the difference between childless n childfree. Many good intentioned souls suggest I go for adoption. Heck I don’t want any kids. Mine or adopted. Period.

~ Incidentally my mom n my hubby don’t have any concerns on me being childfree but others have their own ideas including the poor incomplete moi theory.

~The only downside of being child-free is that some how it seems to upset n offend most people with children & the diatribe they almost dutifully launch into. They almost consider it their duty to try n convince me to ‘see sense’ n rethink my decision!!!! Though I’m sure their intentions are good but their advice is unnecessary. I’ve made my choice with my heart n mind & I am capable of choosing what’s right for me.

~ Once a woman I’d just met asked me ‘in which class your kids are studying?’ Note the wordings, not ‘do you have kids?’…it’s just assumed everyone has kids….when I told her I don’t have any, she said “I’m sorry”!!!!! I had to assure her ‘but I’m not sorry…infact I’m very happy’… she looked very confused 😀

~Another ‘classic’ reason given to me to have children is ‘that it strengthens a relationship/marriage’…what bull?? In my not so humble opinion, a relationship which depends primarily on the two people involved is stronger than one which depends on third person to strengthen it or hold it together.

~Now to answer the most serious ‘Allegation’ against child-free folks that we are selfish (‘cos we don’t think the way rest of you do )

’ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.’

~Just as you don’t understand my choice to be child free I don’t understand your need to breed but I let you just be who you are with all your good n bad choices without asking you to explain or defend them & I expect you to do the same. Not too much to ask for, is it??

~Most of the people I admire are childfree—Ayn Rand, Howard Roark, Osho, Scarlett-o-Hara

~Happy Child free Day to all the cool child-free folks.

(Also See: Revisiting Child Freedom)

June 6, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , . child-free, Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, MEMEME, My lifestyle, Rant, Reflections/Musings, Wisdom. 36 comments.

Life in Assam with special reference to life in Jorhat with superspecial reference to my life here

Living in the north east (Jorhat, Assam, India) is turning out to be a very different experience for me from living in Indore n Delhi. Life in the north east is dramatically different from the life I’ve had so far. Every experience is so new over here.

~ Sun rises very early here. At 5 in the morning there is broad day light. I feel fresh n energetic at 5, while in Delhi I had to struggle to get out of bed even at 9. Here I am out for a walk by 5.30.  The air is so fresh n pure, the weather so great that walks are indeed a pleasure rather than a boring task to be done. On my walking trail there are plenty of lush green trees, beautiful flowers n a variety of birds. The chirp of birds has a very soothing effect on one’s nerves.

From life in jorhat
From life in jorhat
From life in jorhat
From life in jorhat

~ Because the day begins so early I find that I’ve plenty of time to pack a lot within the day. + there are many learning opportunities in Jorhat, particularly within the AF station where we stay. For one I’ve started learning sewing which is turning out to be a great adventure n great fun. This is one thing I never thought I could ever learn or for that matter something I could ever be interested in learning. But here I found an excellent teacher who is all praises for my beginner learning skills n who got me stitching a dress in the second day of my class. Just waiting for the day when I master it n make a new dress in a jiffy for every party I attend !!! Also in the pipeline are classes for learning:

~Car Driving ~Salsa ~Painting ~Knitting ~Origami ~Candle Making ~Tatting & ~Yoga

I guess I’ll be one hell of a talented lady when I go back from Assam.

~A wide variety of pure, fresh, organically grown vegetables n fruits are available here at regular prices. These come to the market from small gardens in the houses. In fact I’ve not seen any natives’ home here without a small garden. N some even have ponds where they breed fresh water fish n some houses have their own miniature tea gardens!!!

From life in jorhat
From life in jorhat
From life in jorhat

~People in Assam are very friendly, always smiling, laid back n ever ready to help n with a very lovely accent to their hindi….it’s a sheer pleasure interacting with them. People are fond of music n dancing n a laid back lifestyle, very different from people always running about in the rat race elsewhere.

~Weather here is damn awesome. When most of rest of India is boiling at 40 degrees we are enjoying temperatures between 17-24 degrees with frequent showers.

~The things I do miss here are : ~ No FM Radio ~ Lack of movie theatres ~ Newspapers: Somehow I’ve found North east editions of all newspapers utterly unreadable n boring.

~But the lack of above is more than made up by lots of awesome places to visit nearby…a report about those places follows. 🙂

April 5, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , . Assam, I-Me-Myself, Jorhat, MEMEME, My lifestyle, Personal, Reflections/Musings. 26 comments.

More things you wanted to know About Me but didn’t know whom to Ask: Now get to hear all the Great stuff !!! :D

I did this for an FB Tag…n since by no means can I call myself a prolific writer(I’m posting it here too) –constrained by the fact that there is only one topic which is of considerable interest to me for a fairly long period of time n that’s…yup you guessed it right Me Me n Me….anyways without further ado ladies n Gentlemen I present before you some more scintillating fantabulous facts about yours truly

What is your favorite TV show?
Tedhi Baat-Shekhar ke sath–Shekhar suman is so versatile n so damn funny…in each episode he comes as a different character (as a railway officer, CEO of a news channel, Haraynvi police officer, Yoga-Guru, mausam vibagh ka adhikari to name a few… he’s so convincing n entertaining in each of these roles n is interviewed by Gurpal whoz equally funny in his earnestness n seriousness…..each episode is a pure delight to watch!!!)

What are your favorite clothes?
On regular days its jeans n kurta or shirt; on formal occasions in college Business Suits…Saris/evening gowns/frocks n dresses/skirts whenever the mood strikes me…n I look a killer (obviously no pun could’ve been intended here) in all these dresses…lemme tell yaaa!!!

Where would you visit if you had the chance?
Bali, Turkey n Greece. Himachal,Kerela, UK (uttrakhand)….basically all of India & thr Rest of the World woohoo!!!

Cup 1/2 empty or 1/2 full?
I don’t care either way!!! I guess I shall drink it n make it empty…then everyone can focus on something else n get some work done!!!

Where would you want to retire?
Anywhere…the idea of not working is super sexy…planning a mini retirement soon n thereafter semi-retirement for the rest of my life!!!

What is your favorite sport to watch?
Watching sports is stupid!! I never quite got the logic behind watching sports!!! Seriously how dumb is watching sports??

Do you have any pets?
Nope n never will !! I don’t do pets or children!!!

What did you want to be when you were little?
Nothing or nobody in particular!! Never had an ambitious bone in my body!!!

What is your best childhood memory?
I don’t do nostalgia!!!

Any pet peeves?
There is nothing more annoying than stupid people & people who don’t have any sense of humor but who happen to think they are damn funny!! & when you don’t laff at their dumb jokes they think you don’t have a sense of humor!!!

Favorite Flower?
Tulips

Favorite ice cream?
Vanilla with choclate sauce

Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
I’m neither brand loyal nor store loyal…n I don’t carry a credit card!! But I do surely splurge on books n clothes!!

Do anything spontaneous lately?
Everything I do is spontaneous n unpredictable…my life is so interesting n exciting ‘cos most of the times I myself dunno what I’ll do next!!

Like your job?
Some days like it…some days love it…some days indifferent n some days hate it (that’s when paper correction comes in)

What are you listening to right now?
The voice of my thoughts!!!! hmmm..deep n philosophical!!!!

What is your favorite color?
Red, orange, yellow….all bright colors in fact

How many tattoos do you have?
not yet n never will…though i use disposable tattoos at times….use n throw…I don’t like being committed to a particular tattoo for the rest of my life!!!

Coffee drinker?
Sometimes….but gimme tea Anytime!!!

August 30, 2009. Tags: , , , , . I-Me-Myself, MEMEME, Personal, Reflections/Musings. 4 comments.

My Awesome Threesomes

I did this for an FB Tag…n since by no means can I call myself a prolific writer (I’m posting this here too)–constrained by the fact that there is only one topic which is of considerable interest to me for a fairly long period of time n that’s…yup you guessed it write Me Me n Me….anyways without further ado ladies n Gentlemen I present before you some more scintillating fantabulous facts about yours truly

Three Names I Go By:
~Ritu Ma’am
~Never had a pet name…I’ve been just Ritu, Ritu n only Ritu
~My Fiance calls me by X-rated names
~He used to call me ‘Bangaram=Gold’ in Telugu..but since it sounds like ‘bhangar=Raddi/kabad/atala

’ in Hindi I had to ask him to not call me that.


Three jobs I’ve had in my life:

~Teacher

~Slacker

~House-wife (future)


Three places I have Lived:

~Indore

~Delhi (future)

~I dunno (future)


Three TV shows I watch:

~Tedhi Baat-Shekhar ke sath–Shekhar suman is so versatile n so damn funny…in each episode he comes as a different character (as a railway officer, CEO of a news channel, Haraynvi police officer, Yoga-Guru, mausam vibagh ka adhikari, Gujju Stock-Broker to name a few… he’s so convincing n entertaining in each of these roles n is interviewed by Gurpal whoz equally funny in his earnestness n seriousness…..each episode is a pure delight to watch!!!)

~Taarak Mehta ka Oolta Chashma (occasionally)

~Office-office (occasionally)


Three Favorite Drinks:

~Tea

~Tea

~Tea


Three cities I’ve been

~Lucern

~Venice

~Paris


Three or More Things I Hate Doing:

~Paper work

~Errands

~Correcting papers

~Picking up a call from unknown numbers


Three places to find me on the weekend:

~My Room

~Book Store

~Somewhere shopping


Three or more things I spend too much money on:

~Books

~Clothes

~Accessories

~Stationery

~Gym (n on top of it I never go there!!!)


Three places I would like to visit:

~Bali

~Turkey

~Greece

~All of India

~& Rest of the world


Three Things I’ve never managed to do however hard I tried

~Keep my room clean

~Get my paperwork in order

~Love without expectations


Three or More Things I’d never do:

~Go to an astrologer or have my future told in any way

~Chase celebrities/ask for their Autographs

~Participate in a Reality show

~Have kids of my own

~Do Kadwa Chauth ka vrat


August 30, 2009. Tags: , , , . I-Me-Myself, MEMEME, Personal, Reflections/Musings. 2 comments.

Hmmm…

I’ve not got used to the concept that someone who loves me can have a good time without me…away from me…I mean I recognize their right n ability to do that intellectually but somehow I’m still incredulous when I see that happening….even though I myself am capable of doing that but am actually hurt when this situation happens (how silly is that??)….though I’m cool with it but this doesn’t fit into my idealistic image of how a perfect romance should be. He should miss me 24/7 if he really loves me.

March 19, 2009. Tags: , , , , , . Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, MEMEME, Rambling, Reflections/Musings. Leave a comment.

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