Quitting the Rat Race #6: Watching the Wheels Go Round n Round!!!

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‘Watching Wheels Go Round & Round’ by John Lennon is my new Anthem , like Lennon I too love to watch Wheels go round n round & watching shadows on walls which means basically doing nothing much, living at the speed of life!! So as I’ve mentioned before too, I’ve chosen to be a Homemaker after having a wonderful career for 10 odd years & I am enjoying this life to the hilt. The other day I was chatting with an old pal & he said he was ‘disappointed in me’ ‘cos I had let myself go n lost the zeal for life!!! I was surprised to hear this ‘cos I am actually happier now, my zeal is very much there, now that zeal is focused on other things like practicing simplicity, frugality, embracing the slow pace of life, clarifying my thought processes, eating healthy & exploring fashion, some things for which I didn’t just have time when I was busy with a career. But obviously most people just can’t understand that this way of life could make people not just ordinary Happy but deliriously Happy! People imagine Happiness means only climbing the ladder of career success & buying bigger n more n more expensive things … incidentally the same friend is about to buy a third SUV!!! I mean I can’t understand people buying one SUV but third, that’s ridiculous beyond imagination (..so perhaps I don’t understand them n they don’t understand me!!)

“I cannot tell if what the world considers ‘happiness’ is happiness or not. All I know is that when I consider the way they go about attaining it, I see them carried away headlong, grim and obsessed, in the general onrush of the human herd, unable to stop themselves or to change their direction. All the while they claim to be just on the point of attaining happiness.” ~Chuang Tzu

Enuff said…now off to Lalaland humming the great lyrics of great song!!! John Lennon reflects my state of mind uncannily

Watching The Wheel go round & round

People say I’m crazy doing what I’m doing
Well they give me all kinds of warnings to save me from ruin
When I say that I’m o.k. well they look at me kind of strange
Surely you’re not happy now you no longer play the game

People say I’m lazy dreaming my life away
Well they give me all kinds of advice designed to enlighten me
When I tell them that I’m doing fine watching shadows on the wall
Don’t you miss the big time boy you’re no longer on the ball

I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go

Ah, people asking questions lost in confusion
Well I tell them there’s no problem, only solutions
Well they shake their heads and they look at me as if I’ve lost my mind
I tell them there’s no hurry
I’m just sitting here doing time

I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go
I just had to let it go
I just had to let it go


October 3, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Inspiration, Meaning of Life, Music, My lifestyle, My Values, Philosophy, Quitting the Rat Race, Quotations, Reflections/Musings, Slacker-Sutras, Slacking, Wisdom, You tube. 2 comments.

Finding Happiness the Epictetus Way #7: Learning from Every Event & Person & Everything else Too!!!


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Epictetus says : With every accident, ask yourself what abilities you have for making a proper use of it. If you are in pain, you will find fortitude. If you hear unpleasant language, you will find patience.

Commentary: If we become a student of life then all people (however annoying) & all events & circumstances (however trying) can become our teachers. In life there are no mistakes only lessons.  

I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, & kindness from the unkind, yet I’m ungrateful to these teachers.~Khalil Gibran

The only real mistakes are from which we learn nothing.

When you lose, don’t lose the lessons.

Good judgment comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgment.  ~Rita Mae Brown

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.  ~Chinese Proverb

Experience is what causes a person to make new mistakes instead of old ones.  

There is only one thing more painful than learning from experience, and that is not learning from experience.  ~Laurence J. Peter

The road to wisdom?
– Well, it’s plain
and simple to express:
and err
and err again
but less
and less
and less.
~Piet Hein


The following reminders from the book “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules” by Cherie Carter-Scott are useful in learning from everything in life 

When you were born, you didn’t come with an owner’s manual  these guidelines make life work better.

~ You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “Life on Planet Earth”. Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.

~There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. “Failures” are as much a part of the process as “success.”

~A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it — then you can go on to the next lesson.

 ~If you don’t learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.

 ~You will know you’ve learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.

~You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract — therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.


A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her. 
~David Brinkley

Enemies teach us inner strength, courage and determination. ~Dalai Lama

In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher.~Dalai Lama


Jon Kabat-Zinn has written a wonderful book ‘Letting Everything Become Your Teacher’

‘Yes, there actually is a way to let everything become your teacher, to let life itself, and everything that unfolds within, Whether you are trying to learn patience, cope with pain, deal with the enormous stress and challenges of the age we live in, improve your relationships, or free yourself from destructive emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.’


In Fact a wise person is open minded & lets everyone be his/her teacher. There is this cute little email ‘What you can learn from a Dog’ (Yes dogs are great teachers too):

1. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy ride.

2. Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.

3. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

4. When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.

5. Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.

6. Take naps and stretch before rising.

7. Run, romp, and play daily.

8. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.

9. Be loyal.

10. If what you want lies burried, dig until you find it.

11. When someone is having a bad day, be silent. Sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

12. Thrive on attention and let people touch you.

13. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

14. When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

15. No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout…. run right back and make friends

16. Delight in the simple joys of a long walk.


September 16, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Greek Philosophers, Happiness, Inspiration, Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Quotations, Wisdom. 2 comments.

Quitting the Rat Race #3: Inspiration from Lin Yutang

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I guess the world is divided in two clearly distinct classes: the working class & the leisure class. Money, outward success, status, materialism, consumerism, expensive cars & homes are what appeals to the former & things like loafing, spending quiet time with self, introspection,idling, gazing at the ceiling, contemplating the navel, simplicity, frugality, reading & solitude are the things valued by later.  ‘The Importance of living’ by Lin Yutang is the Bible of the leisure class. Here we don’t find any advice on how to be more efficient or how to get rich but instead it contains idiosyncratic observations on the art of lying in bed, lolling in chairs, enjoying reading just for sheer pleasure & enjoying a cup of tea. This book celebrates idleness unapologetically.

It contains Delightful nuggets & observations like:

It is not when he is working in the office but when he is lying idly on the sand that his soul utters, “Life is beautiful”. 

I do not think that any civilization can be called complete until it has . . . made a conscious return to simplicity.

To me personally the only function of philosophy is to teach us to take life more lightly and gaily than the average businessman does, for no businessman who does not retire at fifty, if he can, is in my eyes a philosopher. 

Human life can be lived like a poem.

I have always assumed that the end of living is the true enjoyment of it. 

Every man born into this world . . . should order his life so that he can find the greatest happiness in it.

What can be the end of human life except the enjoyment of it? 

To cut with a sharp knife a bright green watermelon on a big scarlet plate of a summer afternoon. Ah, is this not happiness?

 I suspect that the American hustler admires the Chinese loafer.

Those who are wise won’t be busy, and those who are too busy can’t be wise. The wisest man is therefore he who loafs most gracefully.

If men fail to enjoy this earthly existence we have, it is because they do not love life sufficiently and allow it to be turned into a humdrum routine existence.

The illusive rewards of fame are pitched against the tremendous advantages of obscurity.

He who is not wanted by the public can be a carefree individual.

Efficiency, punctuality and the desire for achievement and success . . . are . . . things that make people unhappy and so nervous.

The inability to loaf comes directly from his desire for doing things and in his placing action above being.

Women as a whole, as seen in the parks and in the streets, have better figures and are better dressed, thanks to the continuous tremendous daily efforts of women to keep their figure to the great delight of men. But I imagine how it must wear on their nerves. 

In China, the first question a person asks the other on an official call, after asking about his name and surname is, “What is your glorious age?” . . . Enthusiasm grows in proportion as the gentleman is able to report a higher and higher age, and if the person is anywhere over fifty, the inquirer immediately drops his voice in humility and respect.

It is amazing how few people are conscious of the importance of the art of lying in bed.

Those people who agree with me in believing in lying in bed as one of the greatest pleasures of life are the honest men. 

“Those who take leisurely what the people of the world are busy about can be busy about what the people of the world take leisurely.” – Chang Ch’ao.

“Leisure enables one to read, to travel to famous places, to form beneficial friendships, to drink wine, and to write books. What greater pleasures can there be in the world than these?” – Chang Ch’ao.

“Reading books in old age is like looking at the moon on an open terrace . . . the depth of benefits of reading varies in proportion to the depth of one’s own experience.”- Chang Ch’ao.

A true traveler is always a vagabond, with the joys, temptations and sense of adventure of the vagabond . . . The essence of travel is to have no duties, no fixed hours, no mail, no inquisitive neighbors, no receiving delegations, and no destination.

The point is whether one has got the heart to feel and the eyes to see. If he hasn’t, his visits to the mountains are a pure waste of time and money; on the other hand, if he has got “a special talent in his breast and a special vision below his eyebrows,” he can get the greatest joy of travel even without going to the mountains, by staying at home and watching and going about the field to watch a sailing cloud, or a dog, or a hedge, or a lonely tree.

There are so many kinds of laughter: the laughter of happiness, the laughter at some one falling into one’s trap, the laughter of sneer or contempt, and most difficult of all, the laughter of despair.

A good cup of tea makes (the reading) still more perfect. Or perhaps on a snowy night, when one is sitting before the fireside, and there is a kettle singing on the hearth

A good reader turns an author inside out.

September 12, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Book Review, Books, Happiness, Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Quitting the Rat Race, Quotations, Reflections/Musings, Simplicity, Slacking, Wisdom. 8 comments.

Finding Happiness The Epictetus Way #4


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Epictetus was born into slavery about A.D. 55 in the eastern outreaches of the Roman Empire. Sold as a child and crippled from the beatings of his master, Epictetus was eventually freed, rising from his humble roots to establish an influential school of Stoic philosophy. Stressing that human beings cannot control life, only how they respond to it, Epictetus dedicated his life to outlining the simple way to happiness, fulfillment, and tranquility. By putting into practice the ninety-three witty, wise, and razor-sharp instructions that make up The Enchiridion, readers learn to successfully meet the challenges of everyday life and face life’s inevitable losses and disappointments with grace.

Epictetus’s teachings rank among the greatest wisdom texts of human civilization. The Enchiridion is still the best primer for living the best possible life — as helpful in the twenty-first century as it was in the first.

In every post I’m focusing on one Maxim from Enchiridion to understand it more fully & holistically.

Today’s Maxim: ‘Don’t seek to have events happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do happen.’

Commentary: Many times we wish that life should go only as we want, all our wishes & dreams should be fulfilled instantly. We want instant gratification. And then if we meet some circumstances that are not as per our expectations then we get frustrated, disappointed & depressed.

Byron Katie, author of the book ‘Loving What is’, is a champion of accepting Reality as it is without interfering/judging/demanding. This is the key to peace of mind.

She says:

Reality doesn’t wait for your opinion, vote, or permission, sweetheart. It just keeps being what it is and doing what it does.

Reality doesn’t ever wait for our agreement or approval. It is what it is. You can count on that.

Nothing ever goes wrong in life.

Nothing terrible has ever happened except in our thinking. Reality is always good, even in situations that seem like nightmares. The story we tell is the only nightmare that we have lived.

Without the “should” and “shouldn’t,” we can see reality as it is, and this leaves us free to act efficiently, clearly, and sanely. Asking “What’s the reality of it?” can help bring the mind out of its story, back into the real world.

All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.

When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.

If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.

Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”

I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.

Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.

When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.


It’s true that whatever life brings us, whatever happens to us for the best. An old Akbar Birbal Tale come to my mind:

Once Akbar the mughal emperor and Birbal, his minister were having a chat. While cutting a fruit, Akbar cut his finger slightly and was upset about it. Birbal said “Jahapana, whatever happens is for your good. Do not worry”. This irked Akbar and he wanted to score it even with Birbal. He takes him for hunting trip at the end of the day they are tired. Akbar asks Birbal to get down into an abandoned well and fetch water. After Birbal got down, Akbar pulled the rope up, said, “Birbal stay there, what ever happens is for your own good”, and left him there. Wandering in the Jungle, Akbar lost his way back and was captured by the Tribes, who decided to offer him as a sacrifice to Goddess Kali. Just before chopping his head off, one of them sees the cut on his finger, asserted that he was not perfect, and hence cannot be offered as “Bali” and they released him. Akbar realized Birbal’s words and repented for leaving him in the well and went back to get him. When Akbar explains what happened and apologizes to Birbal for his act, Birbal says “Jahapana, good that you left me, else they would have killed and offered me to kali instead of you”.

It’s a story, still the moral is priceless. We all know that thinking positively through tough times is not easy. It’s hard to practice, easier said than done. Nevertheless, they are great support under difficult circumstances. 


This is the Message of Bhagvat Geeta too:

Whatever happened, happened for the good; whatever is happening, is happening for the good; whatever will happen, will also happen for the good only. You need not have any regrets for the past. You need not worry for the future. The present is happening as it should.

September 10, 2011. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Books, Greek Philosophers, Happiness, Inspiration, Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Philosophy, Quotations, Reflections/Musings, Teaching Stories, Wisdom. 6 comments.

The Inspiring Life of Henry David Thoreau

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Perhaps Thoreau was among the first minimalists. In March 1845, when he was 28 years old, he borrowed an axe from a friend & went to the country near Concord to a lake called Walden Pond. His purpose was to see whether or not he could be happy living alone close to nature, without any possession except what was absolutely necessary.

At Walden he used the axe to cut down trees & made a simple little cabin 10 Ft wide & 15 Ft long, with a closet, a small room above, a brick fireplace, windows at the sides & a door facing the waters of the pond. Altogether the cost of his home was only 28$ & 12C. Inside Thoreau had a desk, a table, 3 chairs & a mirror all of which he made himself. Cooking pots & dishes came as gifts from friends.

Thoreau Lived at Walden for almost 2 years, spending very little money. During this time he earned a few Dollars by doing small jobs & by selling vegetables which he grew. He was thus able to live working 6 weeks of the year, leaving the rest of the time free for reading & exploring the woods.

In his book Walden he wrote that he did not believe that Labor, Property or responsibility made a person better or more spiritual.  The poorest people of all, he wrote, are those who have gathered worthless things for which they had no real use. They have created their own gold/silver chains.

In his days thousands of people were rushing to california to search for gold. Thoreau thought such people were fools. His thought was that people should stay & plough the land rather than look for gold which is of no real value.

Memorable Quotes by Thoreau:

~ And the cost of a thing it will be remembered is the amount of life it requires to be exchanged for it.

~That man is richest whose pleasures are the cheapest.

~Simplify, simplify.

~Money is not required to buy one necessity of the soul.

~If I knew for a certainty that a man was coming to my house with the conscious design of doing me good, I should run for my life.

~Our inventions are wont to be pretty toys, which distract our attention from serious things. They are but improved means to an unimproved end, an end which it was already but too easy to arrive at.

~If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours … In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness.

~If a man walk in the woods for love of them half of each day, he is in danger of being regarded as a loafer; but if he spends his whole day as a speculator, shearing off those woods and making earth bald before her time, he is esteemed an industrious and enterprising citizen. As if a town had no interest in its forests but to cut them down!

~Most men would feel insulted, if it were proposed to employ them in throwing stones over a wall, and then in throwing them back, merely that they might earn their wages. But many are no more worthily employed now.

~Perhaps I am more than usually jealous with respect to my freedom. I feel that my connection with and obligation to society are still very slight and transient. Those slight labors which afford me a livelihood, and by which it is allowed that I am to some extent serviceable to my contemporaries, are as yet commonly a pleasure to me, and I am not often reminded that they are a necessity. So far I am successful. But I foresee, that, if my wants should be much increased, the labor required to supply them would become a drudgery. If I should sell both my forenoons and afternoons to society, as most appear to do, I am sure, that, for me, there would be nothing left worth living for.

~I did not know that mankind were suffering for want of gold. I have seen a little of it. I know that it is very malleable, but not so malleable as wit. A grain of gold will gild a great surface, but not so much as a grain of wisdom.

~When our life ceases to be inward and private, conversation degenerates into mere gossip. We rarely meet a man who can tell us any news which he has not read in a newspaper, or been told by his neighbor; and, for the most part, the only difference between us and our fellow is, that he has seen the newspaper, or been out to tea, and we have not. In proportion as our inward life fails, we go more constantly and desperately to the post-office.

January 11, 2011. Tags: . Inspiration, Meaning of Life, My lifestyle, My Values, Quotations, Reading, Simplicity, Wisdom. 3 comments.

Quotes:Part I

I come across several beautiful  &/hard hitting quotes which make me think. I’ll be posting a collection of my favorite quotes every week.

You yourself & your mind are the only causes of Happiness or lack of it, every thing and everyone around you are only the excuses.

Beautiful people do not just happen.The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. ~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive. ~Robert Louis Stevenson

Extreme busyness, whether at school or college or market, is a symptom of deficient vitality; and a faculty for idleness implies a healthy appetite and a strong sense of personal identity. There is a sort of dead-alive, hackneyed people about, who are scarcely conscious of living except in the exercise of some conventional occupation. Bring these fellows into the country, or set them aboard ship, and you will see how they pine for their desk or their study. They have no curiosity; they cannot give themselves over to random provocations; they do not take pleasure in the exercise of their faculties for its own sake; and unless Necessity lays about them with a stick, they will even stand still. It is no good speaking to such folk: they cannot be idle, their nature is not generous enough; and they pass those hours in a sort of coma, which are not dedicated to furious moiling in the gold-mill.~Robert Louis Stevenson

It is by attempting to reach the top in a single leap that so much
misery is produced in the world. ~Cobbett, William

It is easy when we are in prosperity to give advice to the afflicted.~Aeschylus

Today I wish for you to be happy every moment of every day of your life.  I wish for you to live every experience without fear, without self judgment, without guilt, shame, sadness, or anger. That you are content, happy, laughing, and at peace with all people and things all the time.  I am dreaming a big dream of happiness and wish to share it with you.~Pathway to Happiness Newsletter

The only real way to be free of any problem is to outgrow the self that finds some value in it.~Guy Finley

Freedom is the oxygen of the soul. ~Moshe Dayan

Contentment is natural wealth, luxury is artificial poverty. ~ Socrates

Imagine two lawyers in a courtroom inside your head. One is arguing for your possibilities and you achieving your goals. The other is arguing for your limits and why you don’t deserve what you want. Who will win? The lawyer whom you pay the most. The way you pay these lawyers, however, is not with money; it is with your attention. ~ Alan Cohen from ‘Why Your Life Sucks’

December 21, 2010. Tags: , , , , . Quotations, Wisdom. Leave a comment.

My Thought on Things things that Make Me Think!!!

#1 Money: I value money for what it is, A Medium of Exchange & the stuff with which we buy things that make our life comfortable but I’ve seen many a lives ruined by money, not only as in having loads of money will increase the probability of theft/robbery/your kin being kidnapped etc, but also people ruining their lives worrying over money matters (even when none of those scary incidents happen actually) (not that it is money’s fault but then money seems to do this to most folks). I mean people having sufficient money losing sleep over some money lost in stock market for example is actually hilarious if we think about it.  (I wouldn’t worry about money matters till the time I’ve enough for food n shelter, rest of the stuff is negotiable i.e. I’ll indulge in them if I have money n let go if funds are lacking). Money beyond a certain level is more of a tension rather than joy. Then one has to spend substantial time n thoughts over preserving n increasing it & I personally consider it time wasted. I’d rather spend all that time doing something that enriches my soul like reading/ writing; enjoying the finer things rather than thinking over money matters. I believe in earning a decent amount n then using it all to buy things that please one. Saving for imaginary future emergencies doesn’t quite make sense in my scheme of things. & slogging too hard to make wads of money n then blowing it all to buy luxuries to show off to others is also foolish in my books. Moreover the happiness that some people claim to get from things that money can buy is fleeting & not so fulfilling, ‘cos real happiness comes from within n not generated by external things or circumstances.

Most people seem to have forgotten the fact that money is just a means to an end & started worshiping money for its own sake & rather than spending it find more pleasure in hoarding more n more of it.Several researches have conclusively proved that Lottery winners return to their previous level of happiness after five years. But this hasn’t stopped many from the pursuit of more n more money. As someone jokingly remarked “All I need is a chance to prove that money doesn’t buy happiness.”!!!

A Research carried at Princeton University reveals In looking toward the future, women who concentrated much of their thinking on financial matters were much less likely to be happy with their lives. And, contrary to expectations, many of those with such worries had plenty of money by conventional standards, she said, suggesting that there is more at play in obtaining peace of mind than simply having cash. Conversely, those who didn’t fixate on finances like retirement savings, tuition for college or simply making ends meet, reported being the happiest of the group. (somehow I knew all this instinctively & though I’m from Finance background & been teaching Finance for ages I just hate wasting my time on thinking about money…I’ve always spent what I’ve earned on books, music, Net, clothes, Travel, Gadgets & saved only an itsy bitsy amount…somehow worrying over future is not a part of my DNA…I have no aspirations for what I want to buy 5/10 years later…things will work out the way they are meant to.)

Some quotes that reflect my views on money are:

To be clever enough to get all that money, one must be stupid enough to want it. G.K. Chesterton

~Possessions Possess.

~A man is rich in proportion to the things he can afford to live without. Thoreau

~A good mind possesses a kingdom: a great fortune is a great slavery. ~seneca

~Money doesn’t always bring happiness. People with $10 million are no happier than people with $9 million

It’s Official Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness

#2 Ageing: In a world that is obsessed with youth, I seem to be an odd person out: I’m actually looking forward to grow old. (I not only read ‘Harmony’: a magazine for elderly but find it very interesting too!!) I like myself more now at 35 than I did at 16. I know myself more, I’m surer of my own thoughts n feelings…I just loooooooooooove being older n mature n smarter. I don’t understand the attitude of people feeling very proud ‘cos they are young; my sis in law often brags she’s 10 yrs younger than me as if that is some achievement or badge of honor n what’s with so many women who are supposed to lie about their ages to seem younger than they are, WTF?? Some quotes on ageing that reflect my attitude:

A person’s age is something impressive, it sums up his/her life:  maturity reached slowly and against many obstacles, illnesses cured, griefs and despairs overcome, and unconscious risks taken; maturity formed through so many desires, hopes, regrets, forgotten things, loves.  A person’s age represents a fine cargo of experiences and memories.  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Youth is a disease from which we all recover.  ~Dorothy Fulheim

#3 Death: While I’m not looking forward to death like I’m looking forward to growing old, I’m quite okay with death n dying (I’m not really afraid of dying as many are). I accept it as a part of the natural process of life on this planet. In fact death is what makes life worth living & exhilarating. I don’t understand people who want to live forever. The ultimate mystery of death makes life thrilling. Life is exciting because we have finite time here. I believe in rebirth/reincarnation, so I don’t view death as an end but only a transition/transformation.

#4 Karwa Chauth: is an annual ritual where married women Fast (don’t eat food one whole day) for the long life of their Husbands. It is celebrated with gusto n pride in North India. In my not so humble opinion nothing could be more stupid. There are two reasons for my assertion. Number one the concept itself is illogical. There is no cause n effect relationship here. How could one person not eating prolong the life of another?? If women truly believe that fasting one day in a year can increase lives of husbands then probably they should fast for a week or so to make their husbands live forever!!!

Second & more important reason is that this ritual subjugates & demeans women’s status in the society. Women touch the feet of husbands & eat food late night after seeing the moon n touching husband’s feet!!! For all this they get a gift from the hubby!!! Some women claim that now this is an egalitarian festival ‘cos some hubbies fast for their wives too, but I guess that’s doubly stupid ‘cos two stupid things done together don’t make it a right thing.

The whole thing is stupid, ridiculous, shocking & demeaning for women. But they seem very smug n happy about it. A well adjusted slave is the greatest enemy if freedom.


November 17, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , . Happiness, Hmm..., I-Me-Myself, Meaning of Life, MEMEME, My lifestyle, My Values, Personal, Quotations, Simplicity, Uncategorized, Wisdom. 6 comments.

Buddhism in Bite Size Lessons: Lesson #11

Reflect on Impermanence

“… If you suffer, it is not because things are impermanent. It is because you believe things are permanent. When a flower dies, you don’t suffer much, because you understand that flowers are impermanent. But you cannot accept the impermanence of your beloved one, and you suffer deeply when she passes away. If you look deeply into impermanence, you will do your best to make her happy right now. Aware of impermanence, you become positive, loving, and wise. Impermanence is good news. Without impermanence, nothing is possible. With impermanence, every door is open for change. Instead of complaining, we should say, ‘Long live impermanence!’. Impermanence is an instrument for our liberation.”

March 4, 2010. Tags: , , , . Buddha, Buddhism, Quotations, Wisdom. 4 comments.

Buddhism in Bite Size Lessons:Lesson #7

Golden Nuggets of wisdom from Buddha

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere.

You, yourself, more than anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.(modified)

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.

Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.

To understand everything is to forgive everything

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.

Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

Every human being is the author of his own health or disease.

Do not underrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

March 3, 2010. Tags: , , , . Buddha, Buddhism, Quotations, Wisdom. 1 comment.

Buddhism in Bite Size Lessons: Lesson #3

All that we are is the result of what we have thought.~Buddha (on Power of our thoughts)

Happiness is not a reward , it is a consequence, Suffering is not a punishment,  it is a result.~ Robert Green Ingersoll (though not by Buddha/Buddhist this quote encapsulates the Buddhist Law of Karma & tells us that only we are responsible for our experiences whether good or bad)

March 2, 2010. Tags: , , , , . Buddha, Buddhism, Inspiration, Quotations, Wisdom. Leave a comment.

My Favorite Quotes on Reading

I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading! How much sooner one tires of anything than of a book! ~Jane Austen

Readers are plentiful, thinkers are rare. ~ Harriet Martineau

To read without reflecting is like eating without digesting. ~ Edmund Burke

When I get a little money, I buy books. And if there is any left over, I buy food.~ Desiderius Erasmus

To sit alone in the lamplight with a book spread out before you, such is a pleasure beyond compare.~Kenko Yoshida

Fiction reveals truth that reality obscures. ~Jessamyn West

A book should serve as the ax for the frozen sea within us. ~Franz Kafka

I have never known any distress that an hour’s reading did not assuage.~Charles Louis de Secondat

No entertainment is so cheap as reading, nor any pleasure so lasting – Lady Montagu.(Ah well some things have changed since Lady Montagu uttered these profound words…reading aint so cheap no more but certainly continues to give everlasting pleasure)

Never judge a book by its movie. ~J.W. Eagan

Rainy days should be spent at home with a cup of tea and a good book.~William B. “Bill” Watterson II, Author of the comic-strip Calvin and Hobbes

Readers may be divided into four classes: 1.) Sponges, who absorb all that they read and return it in nearly the same state, only a little dirtied. 2.) Sand-glasses, who retain nothing and are content to get through a book for the sake of getting through the time. 3.) Strain-bags, who retain merely the dregs of what they read. 4.) Mogul diamonds, equally rare and valuable, who profit by what they read, and enable others to profit by it also. ~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Stories are, in one way or another, mirrors. We use them to explain to ourselves how the world works or how it doesn’t work. Like mirrors, stories prepare us for the day to come. They distract us from the things in the darkness.~Neil Gaiman

Every library tells its owner’s story – You may not be able to judge a book by its cover but you can judge people by their bookshelves.~ Lesley Gillilan.

A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face. It is one of the few havens remaining where a man’s mind can get both provocation and privacy. ~Edward P. Morgan

Just the knowledge that a good book is waiting one at the end of a long day,makes the day happier.~Kathleen Norris

The ultimate luxury is to reread: to revisit a book to see how time has treated it, how memory has distorted it, or how my own passing years have cast a new light on it.~Michael Upchurch

In the case of good books, the point is not how many of them you can get through, but rather how many can get through to you.~Mortimer J. Adler

A room without a book is like a body without a soul.~Marcus Tullius Cicero

The best moments in reading are when you come across something – a thought, a feeling, a way of looking at things – which you had thought special and particular to you. Now here it is, set down by someone else, a person you have never met, someone even who is long dead. And it is as if a hand has come out and taken yours.~Alan Bennett

Of course I loved books more than people. ~Diane Setterfield

It’s not that I don’t like people. It’s just that when I’m in the company of others – even my nearest and dearest – there always comes a moment when I’d rather be reading a book. ~Maureen Corrigan (Leave Me Alone, I’m Reading: Finding and Losing Myself in Books)


October 22, 2008. Tags: , , , . Books, Quotations, Reading. Leave a comment.

Nuggets of Wisdom from Buddha

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~The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.~Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

~Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.

~You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

~Do not speak – unless it improves on silence.

~You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.

~Pay no attention to the faults of others, things done or left undone by others.
Consider only what by oneself is done or left undone.

September 14, 2008. Tags: , , . Quotations, Uncategorized, Wisdom. Leave a comment.