Unconditional Self acceptance: Rejoice in the Body you are in
The other day I was catching up with an old friend after a long long time & in the conversation she happened to mention that she is currently struggling with ‘Weight Issues’. & I was like so what else is not new? we’ve been dealing with this problem since ages. She has been struggling with this when I had met her 15 years back n she’s struggling with it now. As for me I’ve been there done that but now do it no more because I’ve learned and accepted the fact that Beauty comes in various sizes, from XS to XXXL & beyond. Everyone has a natural frame & to desire a weight below a certain level is losing, unrealistic, unnecessary & stupid battle. Trust me I’ve started looking more beautiful now even with the extra kilos than I used to look when I thought I was fat & not okay!!!
I believe this constant struggle is less because of the actual body weight & more because we believe that we need to look a certain way & weigh a certain weight in order to look good & be healthy.
Society has set certain unrealistic standards of what is beautiful.
Like for example in India light/fair skin color is the ultimate hallmark of beauty. Everyone wants to marry a fair lady. The fairness cream industry is booming. Advertisements go so far as to claim that a guy is the lucky one if he gets a fair bride, but a dark gal is lucky if she’s getting married at all.
& here is the mother of all crappy things which are shoved at us: if you want to win back your ex start using (Pond’s white beauty) fairness cream & in no time the ex will realize that what a dumb thing he did to dump the new fairer you for another woman who was good enough for him before but since then lost the battle forhis attention by your new fairer avatar.
Pond’s white beauty has actually made these blasphemous Ads with Priyanka Chpra , Saif ali Khan & Neha Dhupia. See them for yourself :
Many dusky (young & impressionable) girls buy into these ideas & spend their time n money on fairness creams waiting for a miracle which is never really delivered & thus lose their focus on real things like education & career & losing their self esteem in the bargain.