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Zen & the Art of Enjoying Everyday Life : Zen Moments #2

ritusthoughtcatcher — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:16:20 +0000

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A very famous saying/quote in Zen goes thus:

Before Enlightenment chopping wood & carrying water

After Enlightenment chopping wood & carrying water

Zen does not have any God or prayers. It just encourages us to discover our true selves & then be a lamp unto ourselves. When we practice Zen every moment becomes a Happy moment, a Zen moment.

The above quote is very significant. Though after enlightenment we continue to do the things we did before, the quality of these tasks changes dramatically. Before enlightenment chopping wood & carrying water (or cooking & doing dishes) is a chore, a burden, something that is done reluctantly, we’d rather be enjoying ourselves, having a high life, going to expensive restaurants in our big glitzy cars & such. There is an anger that we have to do these boring tasks. Our mind is pre-occupied with thoughts of past n future while we hate every second of our present moment. When we practice Zen though we continue to do the same things our feelings about these tasks is hugely transformed. We actually enjoy doing these tasks, we do these chores with devotion & dedication, with mindfulness & realize that there is tremendous beauty in doing them. We realize there is nowhere else to go. We start to enjoy simple pleasures as a clean room & good food rather than exotic holidays & expensive clothes!! When we do things mindfully & with a happy heart, the quality of that thing changes.

Consider this Koan from ‘The Gateless Gate’:

A monk told Joshu, “I have entered your monastery, now please teach me.”

Joshu asked, “Have you eaten your rice porridge?”

The monk replied: “Yes I’ve eaten.”

Joshu said, “Then better wash your bowl.”

At that moment the monk was enlightened!!

After reading Zen books & learning about the basic concepts of Zen for last few days, I’ve been finally motivated to actually practice the practical aspects of Zen. Zen is more of doing rather than empty philosophizing. Zen is very experiential. Zen encourages simplicity. I’ve been spending my last few days in a Zen state. Finally I was motivated to clean my perpetually scattered closet, which was in nothing short of a nightmarish chaos. I always took the excuse that the closet was very small & did not have adequate space for my clothes & things. But when I finally decided to take the bulls by horns, it was surprising how discarding a few useless items can create space for the rest of our stuff. Earlier I was planning to buy an expensive wardrobe to accommodate my ever increasing collection of dresses, foot wear, accessories, Bags, Knick-nacks & what not. But then I applied Zen thinking to my problem, I came up with innovative & inexpensive solutions. I could do with a few inexpensive racks for my books & collapsible foldable shelves for my clothes & shoes. Now I’ve achieved a somewhat uncluttered & better room which I’m sure will turn into a beautiful sanctuary in next few days. I want to make many changes to the way we are used to doing things. I want to enjoy simple beauty & as I’m very fond of my cups of tea, I guess I’ll start with a beautiful tea set & tray to go with it & enjoy a beautiful Tea ceremony every day.

Thich Nhat Hanh says this about drinking tea mindfully (yup with Zen even tea drinking can become our meditation)

“When you drink tea in mindfulness, your body and your mind are perfectly united. You are real, and the tea you drink also becomes real. When you sit in a café, with a lot of music in the background and a lot of projects in your head, you’re not really drinking your coffee or your tea. You’re drinking your projects, you’re drinking your worries. You are not real, and the coffee is not real either. Your tea or your coffee can only reveal itself to you as a reality when you go back to yourself, and produce your true presence, freeing yourself from the past, the future, and from your worries. When you are real, the tea also becomes real and the encounter between you and the tea is real. This is genuine tea drinking. You can organize a tea meditation to provide an opportunity for your friends to practice being truly present in order to enjoy a cup of tea and each other’s presence. Tea meditation is a practice. It is a practice to help us be free. If you are still bound and haunted by the past, if you are still afraid of the future, if you are carried away by your projects, your fear, your anxiety, and your anger, you are not a free person. You are not fully present in the here and the now, so life is not really available to you. The tea, the other person, the blue sky, the flower, is not available to you. In order to be really alive, in order to touch life deeply, you have to become a free person. Cultivating mindfulness can help you to be free.”

We can enjoy such beautifully simple pleasures everyday in life. We don’t have to wait for any special occasion to celebrate life, with Zen every moment is beautiful, every moment is a celebration, yes even when we are chopping wood & carrying water, when we are doing dishes, sweeping the floor, dusting the furniture, with Zen all these things are labors of our love, our love for life itself.

That was Then, This is Now: Zen Moments #1 (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
the zen in me (zendictive.wordpress.com)
Zen for the Beginner’s Mind. ~ Andrew Wilson (elephantjournal.com)
Empty Your Cup (nrhatch.wordpress.com)
Random Musings: Can You Hear Me Now? (madcrowherbals.com)
Reprise #573 (michaelseansymonds.wordpress.com)
Zen Experience (peartwist.com)
enlightenment (zendictive.wordpress.com)
zen in the air (zendictive.wordpress.com)
destiny (zendictive.wordpress.com)
zen in the garden (wisdom) (zendictive.wordpress.com)
Fiftyshift: The value of slowing down (boston.com)
zen’s dying… (zendictive.wordpress.com)
to each his own (destiny) (zendictive.wordpress.com)
Steve Jobs’ private spirituality now an open book (usatoday.com)
Tea Ceremony: Destination Japan (cafelegi.wordpress.com)
A Moment of Enlightenment (caelanhuntress.com)

That was Then, This is Now: Zen Moments #1

ritusthoughtcatcher — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 03:56:22 +0000

That was then, this is now: It is very simple, yet a very profound statement (like all things Zen, this is the beauty of Zen). Rejoice in the way things are today without missing the good old times. Often people have a hangover of the past, they paint quite a rosy picture of the life they had (even though they might have cribbed n complained about that very life when it was happening). But we should realize that everything has it’s time n place. There’s a time for birth, a time to grow & time to die. Everything happens in its own perfect timing. A few years back I had a full-fledged career, a busy routine, good income & lots of money at my disposal. Now I am a home-maker & though those things are no longer there, their absence has created room for new type of experiences: more simple, more serene. Now money might be less but time to reflect on my thoughts n mysteries of life is more. Right now I’m enjoying this placid life. I can’t dream of having it otherwise. Though I’ve to do some mundane chores like cooking n cleaning, something that couldn’t have been even thinkable when I was a studious student & a busy professional. Often people ask me which is better, the professional life or the life of a home-maker & don’t I miss that so-called high life??I always say ‘That was then & this is now’

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Fatshion Blog #2

ritusthoughtcatcher — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 05:55:35 +0000

We don’t need to be size 0 to dress up & look good (as a matter of fact size 0 looks kinda malnourished n sick). There was a time when my hubby used to say things like if you lose 10 kgs, I’ll buy you new clothes worth one lakh rupess & I used to be excited about it!! That time I had not even realized how hot a Plus size woman can look. Dressing up is a matter of taste & personal style & not of size, ergo there are lots of ‘normal’ sized women who are frumpy & many ‘plus’ sized women who are chic. Now I assert my right to shop all I want at my current size (& oh I’ve gained 10 kgs or so since then but ironically I like myself more now than I did then)

Click to view slideshow.

Kick starting My Fatshion Blog (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Plus-size blogs force fashion debate (moneysavingreviews.com)
‘Fatshion’ blogs defiantly celebrate plus-size couture (bbc.co.uk)
Plus Size News Roundup 1/2/2012 (fatchic.net)
What size are you? (strong-is-the-new-beautiful.com)

Kick starting My Fatshion Blog

ritusthoughtcatcher — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 04:09:59 +0000

Fatshion = Fat + Fashion is the new paradigm that rejects thin/skinny as beautiful, it establishes that beauty & health come at all sizes. Blogosphere is full of cool Divas who’ve who are slowly but surely busting the myth of society n media created standards of beauty. This was the Best lesson I learned in 2011. Finally saying goodbye to diets n postponing buying dresses to ‘when I lose X Kgs’…I am beautiful right now…I am Awesome as I am & Here I Gooooooooooo

Click to view slideshow.

‘Fatshion’ blogs defiantly celebrate plus-size couture (bbc.co.uk)
Plus Size News Roundup 1/2/2012 (fatchic.net)

Buddhism in Bite Size Lessons: Lesson #16: 83 Problems-A Buddhist Parable

ritusthoughtcatcher — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 06:01:46 +0000

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A farmer had many complaints. He told the Buddha all about how difficult his life was. It seemed that the weather never cooperated the way that he wanted. It was either too wet or too dry, so his crops often failed. Also, while his wife was a good woman, she was much too critical of him, and lately his children were showing no gratitude for anything that he did for them. Furthermore, his neighbors were much too nosey and seemed to always be interfering in his affairs by spreading gossip about him.

The farmer, finishing his list of complaints, looked expectantly to the Buddha for a solution and was surprised when the Buddha said the he could not help him. According to the Buddha all human beings have 83 problems and that is just the way life is. While you can work hard and solve a few problems, once you do others will soon take their place. Upon hearing this, the farmer, in exasperation, asked, “Then what is the good of all your teaching?” The Buddha replied, “My teaching can’t help you with the 83 problems, but perhaps it can help with the 84th.” “What’s that?” the farmer asked. “The 84th problem,” the Buddha said, “is that you don’t want to have any problems.”

Finding Happiness the Epictetus way #2 (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
How Buddhism Began by Richard F. Gombrich (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
Are there gods for Buddhist (wiki.answers.com)
What is the purpose of the Buddha statue in Buddhist meditation (wiki.answers.com)
Buddhist Thought by Paul Williams et al (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
The Triple Gem by Buddhism Now (thebluelotuscafe.wordpress.com)
The Buddha Garden is conducting a survey… (courtesy post) (thebluelotuscafe.wordpress.com)

Buddhism in Bite Size Lessons: Lesson #15: Commentary on Kalama Sutta

ritusthoughtcatcher — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:46:00 +0000

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Kalama Sutta

The people of Kalama asked the Buddha who to believe out of all the ascetics, sages, venerables, and holy ones who, like himself, passed through their town. They complained that they were confused by the many contradictions they discovered in what they heard. The Kalama Sutta is the Buddha’s reply.

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Do not believe anything on mere hearsay.

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Do not believe in traditions merely because they are old and have been handed down for many generations and in many places.

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Do not believe anything on account of rumors or because people talk a a great deal about it.

–

Do not believe anything because you are shown the written testimony of some ancient sage.

–

Do not believe in what you have fancied, thinking that, because it is extraordinary, it must have been inspired by a god or other wonderful being.

–

Do not believe anything merely because presumption is in its favor, or because the custom of many years inclines you to take it as true.

–

Do not believe anything merely on the authority of your teachers and priests.

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But, whatever, after thorough investigation and reflection, you find to agree with reason and experience, as conducive to the good and benefit of one and all and of the world at large, accept only that as true, and shape your life in accordance with it.

The same text, said the Buddha, must be applied to his own teachings.

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Do not accept any doctrine from reverence, but first try it as gold is tried by fire.

For me this is the chief appeal of Buddhism. Buddha doesn’t give us any Gospel truth. He doesn’t force any belief on us, nothing is to be believed because Buddha said so. It has a very scientific n rational approach. We test a hypothesis on the basis of our life experiences n accept it only if it rings true for us.

The Connected Discourses of the Buddha by Bhikkhu Bodhi (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
How Buddhism Began by Richard F. Gombrich (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
What the Buddha Taught by Walpola Rahula (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
The Origin of Buddhist Meditation by Alexander Wynne (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)
New Year’s Resolutions the Buddha Might Have Made (psychologytoday.com)
Taste and see Find your own Voice and Quote from the BUddha (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
Vegetarian Buddhists; A Closer Look (kylequandel.wordpress.com)
Some questions on my “Ultimate Book List”… (buddhistbooksblog.wordpress.com)

2011 in review

ritusthoughtcatcher — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 15:49:29 +0000

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2011 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Syndey Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 19,000 times in 2011. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 7 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.

Quitting the Rat Race #10: Finding Joy in Chopping Wood & Carrying Water!

ritusthoughtcatcher — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 04:44:39 +0000

There is a Zen saying, “Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop wood carry water.” What’s the difference? The tasks are the same & yet different, ‘cos of a change in how we view them!!

Before enlightenment (in our context while we are still running the Rat Race; Quitting the Rat Race is nothing short of Enlightenment!!!) chopping wood & carrying water seem boring & mundane. We resent doing that…we do it grudgingly while our mind craves for excitement. We’d rather be living a high life, seeking thrills & excitement, planning our next purchase, next promotion, & impressing people with our shiny possessions. There is a huge Gap between reality & expectation & our mind is under constant stress.

After Enlightenment we start appreciating the beauty of mundane stuff. We perform the task of chopping wood & carrying water with Zen like ease & peace, basking in the sun & appreciating the miracle of existence & nature. Every breath is filled with peace & Joy. Profound Spiritual Joy can be found in everyday activities. The Chop Wood Carry Water attitude can be applied in the context of our everyday chores & help us realize that there is joy in doing the laundry, cleaning, paying bills, bathing, cooking, and doing what many people sadly think is boring everyday needs.

In this day and age where people rush here and there and express a sense of loss, because they feel they need to always be doing something noticable, I think this attitude would be a great healing tool, in teaching people that doing the “chores” of life, can in fact be a relaxing and growth enhancing activity.

This also reflects the attitude of rejoicing the way things are rather than always wanting for something else to happen. Usually our attitude is something like “If this is coffee, please bring me some tea; but if this is tea, please bring me some coffee.”~Abraham Lincoln. We just crave for the things that we don’t have instead of enjoying what has indeed been given to us.

”The Master sees things as they are,Without trying to control them.He lets them go their own way, And resides at the center of the circle. He/She understands that the Universe is forever out of control, And that trying to dominate eventsGoes against the current of the Tao. Be content with what you have; Rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, The whole world belongs to you.” ~Tao Te Ching.

This is the only meditation I know.
While I eat, I eat.
While I walk, I walk.
And while I feel sleepy, I sleep.
Whatsoever happens, happens.
I never interfere.

Bokuju

Quitting the Rat Race #3: Inspiration from Lin Yutang (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #1: Drawing Wisdom from Wise Philosophers: #1 Epicurus (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #4: Killing the cycle of consumerism & (over) work (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #5: Can Money/stuff Buy Happiness? Putting Things in Perspective (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #6: Watching the Wheels Go Round n Round!!! (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Don’t Stay Hungry, Don’t Stay Foolish: Quitting The Rat Race #8 (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #9: Don’t be A DINK, DITK, DIOK (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #7: Lessons from the Mexican Fisherman (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
30 in 30: Day 30 (my “Currently Reading” list is never limited to *one* book) (katjevanloon.com)

Kadwa Chauth: Heights of Stupidity

ritusthoughtcatcher — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 06:32:57 +0000

Every year I start squirming & getting uncomfortable around this time of the year, a time when women in North India celebrate a festival called Karva chauth, where they fast all day for the long life of their husbands!! This is the most stupid n ridiculous thing in a married Indian women’s life (which is incidentally full of absurdities like special adornments such as sindoor to flaunt their marital status!!!). To begin with it’s very illogical: how can one person’s fasting/feasting effect another’s length of life? But madness doesn’t end here..they have to further the non sense by doing things like touching their hubbies’ feet!!! What happened to egalitarian nature of marriage?? This year I tried to stay away from this topic which drives me nuts but with Facebook everything just keeps coming straight into my face…there is no way of avoiding the absurdities (women are falling over each other in flaunting their moronic misadventures!!!)…here are the thoughts of women on the ‘specialness’ of Karwa chauth in their life…excuse me while I go & throw up:

#1 karva chauth means to me as u how much u love ur beloved . with a pure heart u r full day on fast just fr him n only him. getting dressed in red its truely awesome. waiting fr the moon its beauty is different on this day. the first sip of water frm ur hubby all is awesomestttttttttt:-) cant be explained the feeling in words (sic)

#2 i like the first sip of water which my hubby offers 2 me…nd also by keeping fast i can make my hubby realise that how much i care bout him.

#3 I think its fun to get add on attention from your husband …That extra dose of care,warmth & love which makes u forget all the effort u have put in fasting It definately makes the bond stronger !

#4 karva chuath is a special day for me because, while offering prayers to god i thank him for creating my man and blessing me with his companionship, which is so precious and dear to me. on this day i observe a nirjal vrath to thank the gods for their beautful creation and making my life so meaningful,its not a tradition followed in my family, am the first one practising it because this day gives me a chance to let my man know how much i worship his association.It is to thank the gods and shower affection on my husband and make our relationship more pure and divine…i dont know and not aware of any stories assoiated with this tradition.

#5 for me ‘karwa chauth’ is the day on which i can try to make my husband’s life so long so that he looks after me always.. And i jast want to show him that how much i love him and how many things i can left for him.. And aditionaly i like to wear heavy red dresses nd do makup so tht he can see my actual beauty with ful of love.. Lartly i love my husbnd so much i can do every single day as ‘karwa chauth’ ..to take his love for ths birth nd for next 6 births..

hmmm…I really don’t know when these women will wake up & see some sense & stop this derogatory madness…seriously who needs this dumb festival??

Karva Chauth 2011 – Fasting For His Life, Officially (zidditamana.wordpress.com)
Women & The Surname Tamasha (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)

Quitting the Rat Race #9: Don’t be A DINK, DITK, DIOK

ritusthoughtcatcher — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 16:01:22 +0000

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I was talking to my friend a few days back & she happened to mention about her couple friend, both husband & wife hold good Jobs in MNCs, are making good money, have no kids, & have no time for frivolous activities like cooking at home. So every single day they go out to eat!! I was incredulous. What use is all the money in the world if we can’t take care of basics thing in life like eating. Eating out every day is seriously injurious to health.

It is my serious belief that only one of the spouses should work outside the home, to earn the bread & butter. If both work, home life invariably suffers, no exceptions. When I stopped working after marriage, one of the major reasons among many was I wanted to give my hubby home cooked lunch, I didn’t want him to eat cafeteria food everyday. & since he has to go to office really early in the morning, I have to get up early & there is no way I could finish cooking, get ready & go to my own work. So making lunch in the morning & a good snack in the evening are apparently more important to me than cold hard cash. Also both of us coming home carrying stress from the outside world did not sound very appealing to me. I am always ready to welcome him with a smile when he comes home tired & stressed. When he come we spend peaceful time together. I can let go of the money part for a better quality of life. Some couples earn more but their quality of life sucks. & if one spouse manages the home efficiently, you can actually prevent lotsa wastage. Thus a penny saved is equivalent to a penny earned n wasted.

Quitting the Rat Race #4: Killing the cycle of consumerism & (over) work (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
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DINKs: Childfree By Choice (blogs.wsj.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #6: Watching the Wheels Go Round n Round!!! (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #5: Can Money/stuff Buy Happiness? Putting Things in Perspective (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
Quitting the Rat Race #2: Read ‘Possum Living’ & get Inspired (ritusthoughtcatcher.wordpress.com)
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–	Do not believe anything on mere hearsay.
–	Do not believe in traditions merely because they are old and have been handed down for many generations and in many places.
–	Do not believe anything on account of rumors or because people talk a a great deal about it.
–	Do not believe anything because you are shown the written testimony of some ancient sage.
–	Do not believe in what you have fancied, thinking that, because it is extraordinary, it must have been inspired by a god or other wonderful being.
–	Do not believe anything merely because presumption is in its favor, or because the custom of many years inclines you to take it as true.
–	Do not believe anything merely on the authority of your teachers and priests.
–	But, whatever, after thorough investigation and reflection, you find to agree with reason and experience, as conducive to the good and benefit of one and all and of the world at large, accept only that as true, and shape your life in accordance with it.

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Kalama Sutta

–

Do not believe anything on mere hearsay.

–

Do not believe in traditions merely because they are old and have been handed down for many generations and in many places.

–

Do not believe anything on account of rumors or because people talk a a great deal about it.

–

Do not believe anything because you are shown the written testimony of some ancient sage.

–

Do not believe in what you have fancied, thinking that, because it is extraordinary, it must have been inspired by a god or other wonderful being.

–

Do not believe anything merely because presumption is in its favor, or because the custom of many years inclines you to take it as true.

–

Do not believe anything merely on the authority of your teachers and priests.

–

But, whatever, after thorough investigation and reflection, you find to agree with reason and experience, as conducive to the good and benefit of one and all and of the world at large, accept only that as true, and shape your life in accordance with it.

The same text, said the Buddha, must be applied to his own teachings.

–

Do not accept any doctrine from reverence, but first try it as gold is tried by fire.

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2011 in review

Quitting the Rat Race #10: Finding Joy in Chopping Wood & Carrying Water!

There is a Zen saying, “Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop wood carry water.” What’s the difference? The tasks are the same & yet different, ‘cos of a change in how we view them!!

This is the only meditation I know. While I eat, I eat. While I walk, I walk. And while I feel sleepy, I sleep. Whatsoever happens, happens. I never interfere.

Bokuju

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#2 i like the first sip of water which my hubby offers 2 me…nd also by keeping fast i can make my hubby realise that how much i care bout him.

#3 I think its fun to get add on attention from your husband …That extra dose of care,warmth & love which makes u forget all the effort u have put in fasting It definately makes the bond stronger !

hmmm…I really don’t know when these women will wake up & see some sense & stop this derogatory madness…seriously who needs this dumb festival??

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This is the only meditation I know.
While I eat, I eat.
While I walk, I walk.
And while I feel sleepy, I sleep.
Whatsoever happens, happens.
I never interfere.